photo by Matt Cornelius
photo by Matt Cornelius

If there was one thing I knew I could always count on, it was walking through the front door of my grandparent’s home, knowing my pop would be sitting in his recliner in the corner of their living room, fidgeting his feet back and forth. The aroma of cornbread and chocolate cake filling the air and a western or the Cowboys game on their 65-inch flat screen have always been reliable fixtures in my life. The chair may have changed a time or two over the years, but the location never did, and the man who sat in it never really changed all that much either.

Within seconds of walking through the front door, Pop would be rolling his eyes, huffing, and puffing, visibly aggravated. Meaning I either walked over from across the street barefoot, which he thought was dumb, or I was being really loud, and he wanted me to lower my voice. Either way, you always knew where you stood with Pop.

I used to tell everyone that my pop would never die. I called him the unbreakable man. He had multiple hospital stints when I was in middle school, in and out of rehab through high school, and a few short-lived assisted living stays through my college years. It was almost like all of it was making him stronger somehow. He just kept hanging on. I think I genuinely believed that he would never die.

That’s why I think it was so shocking to me when I realized the funeral home had come to pick up his body the morning he passed, and that was the last time he would be in his home. The home where he built a beautiful 60-year marriage with my granny. The living room where they bore witness to an entire set of grandchildren and great-grandchildren growing up and changing and flourishing. The kitchen in which Granny prepared meal after meal for him where he’d notice, amongst the endless spread of deliciousness, that there was no bread on the table (and yes, he would comment on that). The recliner he would come back to after a night of coaching his men’s softball team. The garage he would spend hours working puzzles and smoking cigars. The bedroom doors he would peek his head through when my brothers and I stayed over to tell us goodnight and that he loved us. The room where almost every member of our family stood around his lifeless body and listened to my granny tearfully ask, “How blessed are we?”

It was that kind of unshakeable faith—the kind it takes to stand next to your husband of 60 years who just went home to be with Jesus and only recognize the blessings you’ve been given—that my granny and pop instilled within us as the next generation. That is what made it possible for us all to make it through one of the most difficult times of our lives.

As my family and I face our first holiday season without him, we will never take one minute for granted. That we were fortunate enough to watch the patriarch and matriarch of our family honor their wedding vows to the very end in a culture where marriage is not taken seriously was the ultimate example. My granny truly lived out the words “in sickness and in health,” becoming my pop’s caregiver in his final years. When he was unable to walk and needed her constantly, she always kept a smile on her face and words of encouragement for those around her, always setting herself to the side. It’s our turn as a family to take care of our granny now.

I’m thankful for a father figure who bridged the gap for me when I didn’t have a male to look up to. He taught me what it means to be a man. For me, that’s the true legacy my stubborn, opinionated, consistently irritable, but always hilarious Pop left behind in his wake. He ran his race, and he ran it well.

My pop is probably sitting back, fidgeting his feet in a much fancier heavenly recliner right now, but his chair here on earth remains. It will always remain the center point of our family, our North Star, a sacred place. Though Pop is no longer with us, the love and strength he brought to our family will always guide us, and his recliner will be a lasting symbol of who he was and what he means to us all.


LIVE MUSIC

November 1

Dustin Perkins

Fat Jacks Oyster & Sports Bar

8:30 pm

November 2

Trey Johnson

Redbone Magic Brewery

7-10 pm

November 7

Mila Rae Acoustic

The Duke Bar & Grill

7:30 pm

November 7

The Gaither Vocal Band Moments to Remember Tour

First Baptist Church

6-10: 30 pm

November 8

Mark Chesnutt

Crossties Event Venue

7 pm

November 9

Texarkana Symphony Orchestra—Blockbuster Broadway with Norm Lewis

Perot Theatre

7-9 pm

November 10

Jonivan Jones

Universal Vibe Festival—Front Street

2 pm

November 15

Billie Jo Jones

The Duke Bar & Grill

10 pm

November 16

Shawn Lee Stamps

Whiskey River Country

10:30 pm

November 23

Texarkana Symphony Orchestra—Star Wars: A New Hope

Perot Theatre

7-9 pm

November 27

Kin Faux

Whiskey River Country

10 pm

November 30

Don Stalling & the Divided

The Duke Bar & Grill

8 pm


LOCAL EVENTS

November 2

Ace of Clubs Porch Party

420 Pine Street

6-8 pm

November 2

HandsOn Texarkana 16th Annual Tapas and Wine

Collins Home for Weddings & Events

6-10 pm

November 2

Candy Cane Corral

Four States Entertainment Center

9 am-4 pm

November 6, 13, 20, & 22

Free Wednesday Yoga

Southwest Center

5:30-6:30 pm

November 6, 7, 8, & 9

Festival of Trees Benefitting Fearfully & Wonderfully Made

Texarkana Arkansas Convention Center

November 7

For the Sake of One Hope Banquet

The Canvas Special Event Center

6:30 pm

November 8

Downtown Live at the Gallery

6-9 pm

November 8 & 9

15th Annual Gathering of Authors

Circle J Cowboy Church

6:30-8:30 pm

November 8, 9, & 10

Universal Vibe Festival

Front Street Texarkana

November 9

Singo for a Cause

Crossties Event Venue

6 pm

November 16

Golden Card Show

Southwest Center

10 am-4 pm

November 21, 22, & 23

Silvermoon Theatre Presents—The Best Christmas Pageant Ever

Silvermoon on Broad

November 22, 23, & 24

Mistletoe Market

Texarkana Arkansas Convention Center

November 28

11th Annual Turkey Trot 5k Run/Walk

Spring Lake Park

7:30 am

November 30

Small Business Saturday

Shop Local


 

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